Today I’m doing something I’ve done many times in my life. Not just once for myself but once for my older sister and now for the youngest. We all had slight doubts about my eldest sisters wedding, we all had doubts about my groom, we have no doubts about my youngest sister or her groom. And today watching my sister try on the gown she chose brought me to tears. I couldn’t fathom how beautiful she’d look in her wedding dress. The love she shares with her fiancé will last a lifetime I have absolutely no doubt. Those two are meant for each other. My older sister and I got it wrong the first time but my youngest sister learned from us. Being a little under a year away she still has a lot of planning to do. But after finding the dress last night we decided to celebrate. We went to dinner and had some drinks. We lost track of time. Something inside me was aching. I showed up at home around nine o’clock at night, definitely not sober, to my boyfriend patiently waiting. I greeted him and he laughed and laughed. He asked, “rough day?” I said yes. He held my unstableness in his arms and said, ” let’s make it better.” Boy, oh boy does he always. We walked a few blocks to hang out with some of our friends. One is going through a nasty breakup and his girlfriend moved out. The other friend may be moving in. So last night I stood in a kitchen and listened/watched three grown men who tower over me, argue like an old married couple. I just laughed at them, chimed in occasionally and drank. Not only did I start my night with rum, but I involved whiskey, tequila, and a few beers. I never drink so it doesn’t take much for me to lose my faculties. My boyfriend ended up carrying me home. My worries were let go.
The morning after now:
My boyfriend calls to laugh at my rough condition. He tells me I surprised him last night. He didn’t know I had it in me. Tells me I’m a lot of fun to be around when I’m drunk, I’m not as fiesty as many of the women he’s known. I’m just not an angry drunk. Yesterday was hard. A lot of fun but I felt uneasy. My older sister and I both divorcees and my youngest sister finally marrying. I worry about what the future will bring. I felt the loss all over again. Ten years of being my best friend and I don’t even know that person anymore. My husband died almost a year ago, but I didn’t put him to rest. Someone’s in this town walking around in his body. If you would’ve told me a year ago, this is how it would be, I’d tell you that you were crazy. The only constant is change.